Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

How not to take rejection and disappointment so personally in your personal and professional relationships

Feeling Left Behind

Jul 31, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The arrival in the US of the recent Afghan interpreter evacuees has a profound effect on me both for keeping a promise and thinking about those left behind – also for my own personal experiences with feeling ‘left behind.’
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Categories: Abandonment, abandonment, Afghan interpreters, Appreciation, Current Affairs, Evacuation from Afghanistan, Gratitude, Listened to, Heard, and Understood, Matt Zeller, No One Left Behind Keeping our Promise, Rejection, Rejection, Respect, separations, Taking Personally, translators, Workplace
Disloyalty, Betrayal and Secrets, Too

Jun 30, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The news is full of stories of Loyalty, Disloyalty, Betrayal and Secrets. Look under these accusations to find High Suspicion, Fear, Psychological Projection, and Taking things personally.
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Categories: betrayal, Betrayal, Blame, Blame/Blaming, Disappointments, disloyalty, Distrust, Fear, Fear, Jonathan Karl, loyalty, Loyalty/Betrayal, nvisible Loyalties, Psychologial Projection, psychological projection, Rejection, Rejection, Responsibility/Taking Responsibility, Secrets, Shame, shame, Taking Personally, taking personally, taking responsibility
Air Rage – Who Gave Permission for Such Bad Behavior?

May 31, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Does Air Rage reflect these outrageous times? Along with road rage and sports rage and fast food rage and birthday party rage? Along with assaults and bloodshed? How did bad behavior become so accepted and commonplace? Scary times.
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Categories: Air Rage, air rage, Anger, bad behavior, disrespect, Disrespect, isomorphism, Lashing Out, lashing out, loss of control, outbursts, overreacting, parallel process, Rage, Rejection, road rage, Taking Personally
Predatory Behavior, Bullying, Screaming and Smashing – Oh My

Apr 30, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Accusations of imbalance and misuse of Power and Authority by producer Scott Rudin who bullied and berated staff by out-of-control acts and Phillip Roth’s biographer Blake Bailey whose ex-students are reporting sexually predatory behavior back in 8th grade.
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Categories: Abuse, Betrayal, Blake Bailey, Blind spots, Bullying, bullying, Cult, Current Affairs, exploitation, grooming girls, harassment, imbalance of power and authority, Lashing Out, lashing out, Loyalty/Betrayal, Media/Television, Personal Boundaries, Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, Power and Control, Power and Control, predatory sexual behavior, PTSD, Rejection, Safety and Security, Scott Rudin, Teachers and Mentors, temper tantrums, Unpredictability, volitility, inconsistancy, chaos, vengeful, verbal abuse, volatility
My High School English Teacher and Me – Remembering Marcia Blacker

Mar 31, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Decades ago my Omaha Central High School English teacher, Marcia Blacker, pulled me aside and asked a question that made a huge difference the rest of my life. Somebody cared! Many years later I located her so I could thank…
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Categories: Acceptance/Self-Acceptance, adolescent, back-to-school, Dying to Teach: The Educator’s Search for Immortality, favorite teachers, Grief, high school teachers, making a difference, Marcia Blacker, Omaha Central High School, Teachers and Mentors, Trauma
Describing the Capitol Siege Like a Performance Piece

Feb 28, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

What Sen. Ron Johnson described about the Jan. 6 siege on the Capitol and what i saw on TV as it was happening were very different realities. I felt I was being gaslighted and it reminded me of all the…
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Categories: Alice in Wonderland, Alternate Reality, Alternate Universe, Current Affairs, Gaslighting, Gaslighting, January 6, mystification, mystification, Parallel Universe, Politics, Ron Johnson, Safety and Security, Sen, Siege on Capitol, Through the Looking Glass