Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

How not to take rejection and disappointment so personally in your personal and professional relationships

Waiting and Waiting to Hear: “Thank You for Your Good Work!”

Jan 31, 2022

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Early rejection experiences of feeling unappreciated, invisible or unrecognized can flare up in the workplace. Recognizing these early messages can help you navigate through the pain of yet another perceived rejection.
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Categories: Acceptance, Acceptance/Self-Acceptance, appreciation, Appreciation, Disappointment, Disappointments, disrespect, Disrespect, recognition, Rejection, Rejection, Respect, Self-rejection, taking personally, Taking Personally, validation, Workplace
A Rejection Refresher Course for the New Year

Dec 31, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Here’s a End of the Year Refresher Course on Rejection compiled by Prevention Magazine and the Atlanta Journal Constitution. So glad to have been able to contribute to these terrific pieces!
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Categories: Atlanta Journal Constitution, attachment styles, Communication, disappointments, Disappointments, Gift -giving, gift-giving, hurt feelings, Prevention Magazine, Rejection, Rejection, Resentment, Social Rejection, taking personally, Taking Personally
Tip-toeing Through Thanksgiving

Nov 23, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Thoughts of gratitude are challenging when relatives disagree on masks, vaccinations, ballot recounts, immigration, protests, riots, guns, climate change, women’s right to choose, voting or infrastructure. Here’s how to have a respectful conversation.
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Categories: anti-vaxxers, Anxiety, Appreciation, argumentive relatives, bullying, Bullying, Covid, COVID-19, disrespect, Family, Family, Gratitude, Personal Boundaries, personal boundaries, Psychologial Projection, psychological projection, Respect, respect, Taking Personally, Thanksgiving, Thanksgiving
I Didn’t Know the Gun Was Loaded . . .

Oct 31, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

I used to play with Daddy’s gun when I was a child. Now I cringe whenever i hear about a child shooting or killing another child or their parent or themselves. Freaks me out to realizeI could have been that…
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Categories: “Rust” movie set, Abandonment, accidental killing, Alec Baldwin, children and guns, cinematographer Halyna Hutchins, Current Affairs, director, Family, Grief, Guns, guns, Joel Souza, Loss, Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, PTSD, Safety and Security, unintentional shooting
Congressional Communication Breakdowns Replicate Troubled Couples

Sep 30, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The squabbling and dramatic goings-on in Congress lead to miscommunications lead to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, taking things personally, anger and resentment.
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Categories: anger, Blame/Blaming, Communication Problems, Congress, Couples, Disrespect, miscommunication, misunderstandings, Politics, Resentment, resentment, Taking Personally, taking personally, Troubled couples
Inhale. Exhale.

Aug 31, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

In times of stress and overwhelm, think: Inhale, Exhale. The Head of School of Seattle Girls’ School portrays classroom challenges as a microcosm for the world and for our planet.
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Categories: Acceptance/Self-Acceptance, Afghanistan, anxiety, Anxiety, Appreciation, breathing, Brenda Leaks, Community, community, Covid, COVID-19, evacuation, Exhale, Fear, Inhale, Joy, Relationships, Seattle Girls’ School, Self-care, Stress, Stress, Teachers and Mentors