Shame – Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

Why Do Political Campaigns Guilt-trip Us to Donate?

Nov 30, 2024

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Have you been feeling blind-sided into donating to certain political campaigns during this election cycle – blamed or shamed or guilt-tripped?

Why ‘Weird’ is Such a Loaded Word

Aug 31, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The word ‘weird’ brings back so many negative growing up memories of feeling ‘less-than’ and ‘different’ and unaccepted by peers. I used to compare myself and feel so self-conscious. Until I discovered some self-acceptance.and self-respect.

When Rejection Leads to Self-rejection and Feels Like Shame

Feb 29, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The sting of rejection often morphs into self-rejection and shame. One way of dealing is reminding yourself “This is only embarrassment not shame”can make a difference in how we deal with the pain of taking something personally.

The Case of the Missing Apology

Aug 31, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Lately lots of political name-calling and finger-pointing and blaming and shaming. Folks taking things personally and retaliating by lashing out. But have you noticed apologies seem to be missing – along with stepping up and taking responsibility for often outrageous behavior.

The Big-time Influence of Personal Boundaries

Jul 31, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Personal boundary confusion is a challenge for many of us, especially if we grew up in a family where there was a lack of clear boundaries often leading to disrespect and shame. Boundary confusion can be especially problematic in the workplace.

How Can Putin Save Face?

Apr 30, 2022

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Elayne Savage, PhD

What will it take for Putin to save face and his honor in the face of the disrespect he is gaining world-wide by his devastation of Ukraine.

Disloyalty, Betrayal and Secrets, Too

Jun 30, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The news is full of stories of Loyalty, Disloyalty, Betrayal and Secrets. Look under these accusations to find High Suspicion, Fear, Psychological Projection, and Taking things personally.

The Art of Dealing Out Distractions, Deflections, Evasions, Blaming and Shaming

Mar 31, 2018

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Trying to understand the flurry of Distraction and Blaming? Look to childhood roles in the family – especially the Distracter and Blamer.

Imbalance of Power and Authority Exists Everywhere

Oct 31, 2017

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Growing numbers of women and men are describing sexual misconduct and predatory behaviors: suggestive comments, bullying, sexual harassment, assault and abuse. This imbalance and misuse of power and authority is bigger than the casting couch – it permeates all industries and venues. Reliving the trauma involves fear, distrust and self-rejection.

A Big Dose of Public Shame and Humiliation

Jul 30, 2017

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The chaotic Trump White House is dishing out public shame, humiliation, insults and ridicule to anyone who cannot meet the President’s loyalty demands – and the President has been encouraging them to fight it out . . .

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