Blame/Blaming – Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

Why Do Political Campaigns Guilt-trip Us to Donate?

Nov 30, 2024

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Have you been feeling blind-sided into donating to certain political campaigns during this election cycle – blamed or shamed or guilt-tripped?

Election Campaign 2024: Rejections, Accusations and Psychological Projections

Sep 30, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Psychological projection is the tendency to unconsciously see certain traits in another person –– traits you cannot acknowledge them in yourself. These might include anger, sadness, fears, insecurities, vulnerabilities, and dependency. It might include your tendency to be stubborn or flirtatious or bad or too loud or pushy or competitive or controlling. have a tendency…

When Apologies are Non-apologies

Sep 30, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Apologies are difficult so many of us make a non-apology – full of justifications, excuses and rationalizations for very unclassy, hurtful, denigrating, and often intentionally mean-for-meanness-sake behavior.

The Case of the Missing Apology

Aug 31, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Lately lots of political name-calling and finger-pointing and blaming and shaming. Folks taking things personally and retaliating by lashing out. But have you noticed apologies seem to be missing – along with stepping up and taking responsibility for often outrageous behavior.

You’re a Grand Old Flag – What Happened?

Jan 31, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Hearing The Singing Senators on YouTube belt out ‘You’re a Grand Old Flag’ and ‘This is My Country’ makes me want to sing and march along. And at the same time makes me sad for for what seems like the demise of the country that I used to feel so proud was my country. Hoping…

Congressional Communication Breakdowns Replicate Troubled Couples

Sep 30, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The squabbling and dramatic goings-on in Congress lead to miscommunications lead to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, taking things personally, anger and resentment.

Disloyalty, Betrayal and Secrets, Too

Jun 30, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The news is full of stories of Loyalty, Disloyalty, Betrayal and Secrets. Look under these accusations to find High Suspicion, Fear, Psychological Projection, and Taking things personally.

Gaslighting –– the Ultimate Alternate Reality

Aug 31, 2020

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Misrepresentations, untrue statements and flat out lies from both Conventions felt like gaslighting and manipulation. It was crazy-making because it reminded me of how my childhood perceptions were constantly discounted.

Making Someone Bad and Wrong

Jul 31, 2020

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Why are there so many instances of making people ‘Bad and Wrong’ lately: finger-pointing, discrediting, blaming and shaming? Could it be caused by psychological projection – accusing others of one’s own unacceptable thoughts and behaviors?

Coaching Joe Biden on Saying “I’m Sorry” – The Art of Apologizing 101

Apr 30, 2019

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Folks struggle to apologize in a way that the other person craves to hear it. #JoeBiden has been trying to figure all of this out. Learn how to turn a non-apology into taking responsibility for words, actions (or non-actions) that have been hurtful. http://bit.ly/2DGrci5

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