Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

How not to take rejection and disappointment so personally in your personal and professional relationships

Nasty and Personal: When is Political Nastiness Psychological Projection?

Jan 26, 2012

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Elayne Savage, PhD

This campaign is full of negativity, and nasty accusations. Could it really be psychological projection that is behind it all?
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Categories: 2012 elections, 2012 primaries, Anxiety, Blind Spots, Blind spots, campaign, Current Affairs, isomorphism, Isomorphism/parallel Process/social contagion, parallel process, Personal Boundaries, Political Campaigning, Politics, Politics, Psychologial Projection, psychological projection
Beating Holiday Stress: Avoiding Disappointments

Dec 11, 2011

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Holiday Stress seems bigger than ever this year. Here are some great tips to beat disappointment and keep expectations under control.
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Categories: Anxiety, anxiety, Disappointments, disappointments, expectations, Family, Family, Gift -giving, gift-giving, holiday stress, Personal Boundaries, Rejection, Rejection, Relationships, Stress, Stress
Penn State: Breaches of Trust, Betrayals and Looking the Other Way

Nov 27, 2011

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The Penn State sexual abuse allegations highlight a problem experienced by many abused children: how grownups betray and abandon them by failing to protect.
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Categories: Abuse, American Heart Association, Bullying, Center for Disease Control, child abuse, Current Affairs, Fear, Graham Spanier, Grand Jury indictment, Jerry Sandusky, Joe Palermo, John Baer, Mike McQueary, molestation, Penn State football, Penn State scandal, Permission, Philadelphia Daily News, Rejection, sexual abuse, Sexual Assault, Sports, Stress
Personal and Repugnant Politicking

Oct 31, 2011

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The 2012 Presidential Primary campaigning is off to a running start with so much name-calling, personal attacks, slights, clashes, bitterness and harsh personal salvos. It would be hard not to take these personally!
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Categories: 2008 presidential election, 2012 presidential primaries, Bullying, Mitt Romney, Personal Attacks, Political Campaigning, Politics, Rejection, Rejection, Relationships, Rick Perry, Taking things personally, Workplace
Puttering Around with Perfectionism

Sep 29, 2011

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Procrastination is a reflection of self-rejection, anxiety and stress and often involves procrastination. Why not strive for ‘imperfection” for a change!
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Categories: Anxiety, Disappointments, Imperfection, Perfectionism, Perfectionism, Procrastination, Procrastination, Rejection, Rejection, Scott “Q” Marcus, self-rejection, Stress, What holds you back
Rewriting the Messages of Childhood

Aug 31, 2011

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Stories about Wendy Wasserstein and her family help us understand how the onslaught of childhood rejection messages affected the woman she grew into. And here are more stories to illustrate how childhood messages may have affected you and your work…
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Categories: anxiety, Anxiety, Communication, Disappointment, Disappointments, Family, family secrets, Fear, Heidi Chronicles, Julie Salamon, look at that fat girl, Rejection, Rejection, Self-esteem, Self-rejection, taking personally, Wendy and The Lost Boys, Wendy Wasserstein, Workplace