Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

How not to take rejection and disappointment so personally in your personal and professional relationships

Class Reunion – A Time For Reflection

Jul 31, 2009

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Class reunions bring on lots of conflicting feelings – fear, judgment, acceptance and appreciation.
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Categories: Acceptance, Appreciation, appreciation, class reunion, criticism, Disappointments, Fear, friends, friendship, Gratitude, Grief, high school class reunion, high school reunion, Loss, Nebraska, Omaha Central High School, Peter Hoagland, Rejection, Relationships, Reunions, social rejection, Social Rejection
One Step Forward, Two Steps Back – Revisiting Shame

Jun 29, 2009

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Every so often a huge rejection experience comes from out of the blue and knocks us for a loop. In a flash, I found myself being six years old again.
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Categories: Acceptance, Cirque du Soleil, embarrassment, humiliation, Las Vegas, Mystere, Rejection, Rejection, Relationships, self-acceptance, self-rejection, Shame, shame, Treasure Island, Washington Post
What a Corrective Emotional Experience That Was!

May 27, 2009

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Finding redemption for a humiliating childhood experience by having a Corrective Emotional Experience many decades later. And The Washington Post is involved in each instance.
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Categories: AdaptAbility, corrective emotinal experience, DC, devastating, Family, Franz Alexander, How To Survive Change You Did’t Ask For, humiliating, MJ Ryan, mortified, negative messages, positive messages, Rejection, Relationships, self-concept, Shame, The Saint, The Washington Post, Theola Labbé-DeBose, Washington
“Don’t Fear Change. Change Fear”

Apr 24, 2009

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Our relationship to fear has a powerful impact on our lives. These days fear is in the air and it’s contagious. The 10th anniversary of the Columbine High School killings reminds us how fear can take over a country. And…
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Categories: 9-11, anthrax, Anxiety, atrocity, massacre, mass killing, Bowling for Columbine, Canada, CO, Columbine High School, coping styles, coping with fear, culture of fear, disease epidemics, Family, Fear, Fear, Film, gay marriage, guns, immigrants, killing, Littleton, Michael Moore, Morphizm.com, Permission, Personal Boundaries, political accusations, Politics, politics of fear, Relationships, terrorism
Fear, Anger and Outrage

Mar 23, 2009

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The connection between Fear, Anger and Rage regarding the economy. How it affects us and what we can do to decrease our stress.
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Categories: AIG, Anger, anger, Anxiety, anxiety, bailout, bailout rage, bonuses, Bullying, coping, Current Affairs, Disappointment, Disappointments, disappointments, economy, Fear, Fear, Fight, Fight, Flight or Freeze, Flight or Freeze Response, loss, Loss, outrage, Politics, populist rage, rage, Rage, Rejection, Rejection, Relationships, Security, self-rejection, Stress, tensions, Trust, Unrealistic Expectations, Yoda
Out of the Ashes – A Joyous Reunion of Grief

Feb 27, 2009

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Elayne Savage, PhD

A reunion of grief takes place as an Iowa farm community invites a brother and sister to join them in remembering the plane crash that killed their mother and grandmother – 55 years later.
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Categories: abandonment, Abandonment, Acceptance, Big Bopper, Braniff, Buddy Holly, Bye bye Miss American Pie, communal grieving, Communal grieving, DC-3, DC-3, death, Elayne Savage, Elwin Musser, Family, grief, Grief, Jason Gore, John Skipper, Lee Raskin, Loss, loss of mother, Mason City Iowa Globe Gazette, plane crash, Rejection, Relationships, Richie Valens, Swaledale, The Day the Music Died