Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

How not to take rejection and disappointment so personally in your personal and professional relationships

Confessions of an Overly Responsible Personality

Jan 25, 2010

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Elayne Savage, PhD

There’s a fine line between taking responsibility and being overly responsible. This boundary confusion gets us into trouble in work and personal relationships. Discover where this comes from and what to do about it.
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Categories: apology, Blame, choices, codependency, codependent, control, Disappointment, Disappointments, Family, Haiti, I’m sorry, overly responsible, parentified children, Personal Boundaries, Rejection, Rejection, Relationships, responsibility, Responsible/Overly Responsible, taking personally
Your Holiday Survival Guide

Dec 15, 2009

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Elayne Savage, PhD

These touchy times foster even touchier overreactions over the holidays. Tips for surviving the Holidays and turning the tables on relatives with who act badly.
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Categories: Anger, bad behavior, Christmas dinner, Disappointments, disrespect, Holiday dinner, Personal Boundaries, Psychologial Projection, psychological projection, Rejection, Rejection, Relationships, relatives, Religion, tips for surviving Holidays
Thanksgiving . . . Opportunity Awaits

Nov 22, 2009

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Elayne Savage, PhD

In spite of economic hardships, Thanksgiving offers the opportunity for creating space to explore your passion and discover new horizons.
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Categories: appreciation, Appreciation, crisis, Danger, economic hardships, economic stress, Family, Gratitude, gratitude, job loss, lost homes, opportunity, passion, Relationships, Roy H. Williams, Thanksgiving
Exploited! – Bamboozled By a Helium Balloon

Oct 29, 2009

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The Balloon Boy story brings up many memories of other exploitation, coercions and feeling taken advantage of in childhood experiences and in personal and professional present situations.
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Categories: abuse, Abuse, Balloon Boy, coerce, doormat, Emotional Abuse, exploitation, Family, Helium balloon, manipulation, mylar balloon, Personal Boundaries, Rejection, Rejection, Relationships, resentment, Resentment, take advantage of, taking personally, Trust, vicarious parents, Workplace, world view
Thoughts on Spanking Children – It’s Not Neat to Beat

Sep 29, 2009

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Spanking children is in the news again. Let’s take a look at the long term effects of abusive corporal punishment and how the child’s world view is colored forever by the rejection messages spankings send out.
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Categories: abuse, Abuse, Alan Kazdin, beatings, child abuse, corporal punishment, Family, Fear, Murray Strauss Mallie J. Paschall, punishment, Rejection, Shame, spankings, whippings, world view
All Frenzied Up – A Look at Mob Mentality

Aug 31, 2009

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Elayne Savage, PhD

As mob behavior runs rampant these days, the country becomes even more polarized. Mob behavior shows itself at Town Hall meetings – in the form of bullying, threats and intimidation. Can we protect ourselves from the effects of this onslaught?
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Categories: Anger, anger, bully, Bullying, contagion theory, convergence theory, Current Affairs, Fear, Fear, mob behavior, mob mentality, outrage, Personal Boundaries, polarization, polarize, Political Campaigning, Politics, Rage, rage, Rejection, take personally, Town Hall meetings