Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

How not to take rejection and disappointment so personally in your personal and professional relationships

Reflections on Growing Up In the Shadow of the Navy Yard

Sep 17, 2013

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The Washington DC Navy Yard shootings bring both sadness and reflections on growing up in the neighborhood of 7th and L streets, SE.
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Categories: 7th and L streets, Appreciation, Blue Castle, Current Affairs, Family, Navy Yard, Navy Yard shooting, Raskin’s Market, Television, Washington DC, Washington DC, Workplace
My Mother, My Daughter, Myself – And a Powerful Anniversary Reaction

Aug 27, 2013

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Do your reactions in the present seem out of proportion with what’s going on in your life? This may be emotional reaction to a previous traumatic event or disaster – an Anniversary Reaction involving PTSD
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Categories: Abandonment, amygdala, Anniversary Effect, Anniversary Reaction, Anniversary Reaction, Bereavement, DC-3, Death & Dying, Family, Fear, grief, Grief, Grief And Memory, Grief Support, grieving, Loss, loss, Memories, Memory and Cognition, plane crash, Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, PTSD, Traumatic Event
Secrecy, Lies, Betrayal and Shattered Trust

Jul 31, 2013

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Elayne Savage, PhD

When we feel betrayed and lied to by people or organizations we have trusted with our well-being, old, stockpiled pain is reignited and serves to inflame the present situation. It feels like getting kicked in the gut.
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Categories: Abandonment, Anger, anger, Betrayal, betrayal, betrayal of trust, CAMFT, deception, lies, loyalty, Loyalty/Betrayal, Lying and Liars, Marriage and Family Therapists, Rejection, Secrecy, thrown under the bus, Trust, Workplace
When Media Icons Get Fired

Jun 28, 2013

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Getting fired brings on feelings of rejection, betrayal of trust and victimization – even (or especially) for media icons like George Zimmer, Paula Deen Brian Williams and Neal Conan
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Categories: Anger, betrayal, Betrayal, Brian Williams, Food Network, George Zimmer, loyalty, Loyalty/Betrayal, NBC, Neal Conan, Paula Deen, Portia Nelson, Rejection, Resentment, Rock Center, Romany Malco, Self-rejection, The Men’s Wearhouse, Tijuana Jackson, Workplace
Memorial Day Takes on New Meaning

May 27, 2013

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The meaning of Memorial Day takes on a new perspective as we consider active duty (one per day) and veterans (one per hour) suicides.
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Categories: active duty deaths, active duty suicides, Afghanistan war, death, death and dying, Department of Veterans Affairs, Grief, grieving, Iraq War, Lafayette Field of Crosses, Lafayette Hill of Crosses, loss, Loss, Memorial Day, military, military suicide, military suicide rate, National Guard suicide, Navy Times, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, PTSD, reservist suicide, South Omaha, Stress, Susie Madrak, traumatic brain injury, VA, veteran suicides, war vet
Is Yahoo’s Ban on Telecommuting a Betrayal of Trust?

May 10, 2013

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Implementing Yahoo CEO Marissa Mayer’s vision of exciting face-to-face “impromptu team meetings” may decrease productivity rather than increasing it – especially if people problems at work lead to dwelling on perceived slights, taking things personally and building resentment.  Does Yahoo’s…
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Categories: Anxiety, betrayal, Disappointment, Disappointments, lazy, Marissa Mayer, morale, Rejection, Rejection, Resentment, resentment, Stress, telecommuting ban, Trust, work from home, Workplace, workplace stress, Yahoo