Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

How not to take rejection and disappointment so personally in your personal and professional relationships

7 Tips for Designing Your Valentine’s Day

Feb 10, 2014

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Here comes Valentine’s Day – when too often the value of the relationship is tied up in a gift. Being clear and direct about what you yearn for avoids misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Tips for designing your Valentine’s Day whether…
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Categories: Anxiety, Couples, Disappointments, Flowers, Gift -giving, gift-giving, Gifts, hurt feelings, Rejection, Rejection, Relationship breakups, Relationships, relationships, Taking Personally, Unrealistic Expectations, Valentine’s Day, Valentine’s Day breakups
Chris Christie and His Inner Circle: Taking Things Personally Big Time

Jan 24, 2014

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Amid all the speculation about what actually happened regarding the George Washington Bridge lane closures, let’s take a look at how taking things personally may have colored the thinking of Governor Christie and his Inner Circle. Might there have been…
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Categories: abuse of power, Barbara Buono, Betrayal, Bill Baroni, Bill Stepian, Bridget Kelly, bullying, Bullying, Carl Lewis, Chris Christie, Culture of Intimidation, Culture of Retribution, Current Affairs, David Wildstein, Fort Lee, George Washington Bridge, harassment, Imbalance of Power, Isomorphism/parallel Process/social contagion, Mayor Dawn Zimmer, Mayor Mark Sokolich, Patrick Foye, Personal Boundaries, Politics, Port Authority of New York and New Jersey, Rejection, State of New Jersey, Taking Personally, Workplace
Tips for Suriving the Holidays

Dec 22, 2013

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The Holidays can bring on family tensions and gift-giving disappointments. Tips for stress-free Holidays.
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Categories: Christmas, Communication, Disappointment, Disappointments, Family, Family, Gift -giving, gift-giving, Holidays, hurt feelings, Rejection, Rejection, Relationships, stress-free Holidays, Style Differences, Taking Personally, taking personally, traditions
Happy Thanksgiving and Some Tips for Navigating Family Gatherings

Nov 27, 2013

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Elayne Savage, PhD

It’s great to open up to giving and receiving gratitude at Thanksgiving. It’s also useful to have some tips for navigating family gatherings.
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Categories: Appreciation, appreciation, Beckett, Family, Family, family gatherings, friends, Friendships, giving and receiving, gratitude, Gratitude, Pirandello, Rejection, Rejection, Six Characters in Search of an Author, taking personally, Taking Personally, thankful, Thanksgiving, Theatre of the Absurd, Waiting for Godot
Bullying: “Just a Little Locker Room Humor?”

Nov 21, 2013

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Accusations of name-calling, bullying and hazing within the Miami Dolphins has tackle Jonathan Martin AWOL from the team and guard Richie Incognito suspended. Sometimes we can ‘grin and bear it’ for only so long – then we can’t take it…
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Categories: Abuse, Bullying, bullying, cafeteria prank, Current Affairs, harassment, Jared Allen, Jason Garrett, Jonathan Martin, Miami Dolphins, NFL, Personal Boundaries, prank, Richie Incognito, Sports, Workplace
Saving Face or Losing Face?

Oct 15, 2013

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Elayne Savage, PhD

What Congress in Washington needs is a large dose of ‘Saving Face.’ Maybe they can use some tips from the Chinese who for generations have been experts on ‘Managing Face.’
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Categories: Acceptance/Self-Acceptance, Assad, chemical attack, Chinese, Communication, Congress, Current Affairs, John Kerry, lawmakers, Losing Face, Loss, Managing Face, poison gas, Politics, red line in the sand, Rejection, Russia, Saving Face, Saving Face and Losing Face, Self-esteem, Self-rejection, Shame, shame/shaming, Syria, Washington, Workplace