Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

How not to take rejection and disappointment so personally in your personal and professional relationships

Getting Caught in a Lie Can Be Awkward: Brian Williams and Bill O’Reilly

Feb 26, 2015

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Brian Williams and Bill O’Reilly have been accused of stretching the truth in an “I was there” kind of way. Some of us never quite outgrow our childhood confusion about the difference between fantasy and reality. We continue to exaggerate…
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Categories: Bill O’Reilly NBC, Brian Wiliams, Buenos Aires, CBS, Chronic lying, CIA, Compulsive Lying, Culture of Lying, Current Affairs, El Salvador, Falkland Islands, Fear, Friedrich Nietzsche, Habitual lying, John Kiriakow, liar, lies, lying, Lying and Liars, Micro-expressions, Pathological lying, Paul Ekman, Reunions, Selma Fraiberg, Television, The Magic Years
Blind Spots – Those Unacceptable Parts of Ourselves

Jan 31, 2015

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Elayne Savage, PhD

We all have a blind spot or two, submerged parts of ourselves that we don’t see but others do. Discover how not to let this be a problem in your personal and workplace relationships.
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Categories: Ambivalence, Blind Spots, Blind spots, Couples, Karl Jung, Owning Your Own Shadow, Psychologial Projection, Psychologial Projection, rear view mirror, Rejection, Rejection, Relationships, Robert Johnson, The Shadow, traits, Workplace
Those After-Holiday-Let-downs

Dec 29, 2014

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Elayne Savage, PhD

When the blahs creep in after the holidays, you can best deal with them by understanding your adrenalin highs and disappointment lows.
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Categories: adrenalin. cortisol, After holiday let down, Anxiety, Blahs, Chanukah, Christmas, Disappointments, disappointments, expectations, Gift -giving, gift-giving, Holiday hype, Kwanzaa, Rejection, Relationships, Solstice, Stress
Tips for Talking to the Turkeys at the Table

Nov 24, 2014

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Thanksgiving gives us a reason and permission to allow gratitude into our lives. Also the opportunity to try out some tips for talking to the turkeys at the holiday table.
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Categories: Acceptance/Self-Acceptance, Appreciation, appreciation, Family, Family, friends, gratitude, Gratitude, Mike Robbins, Norman Rockwell painting, Psychologial Projection, psychological projection, Rejection, Stress, Taking Personally, taking personally, Thanksgiving, time-outs
Fear Is in the Air and It’s Contagious

Oct 30, 2014

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Elayne Savage, PhD

A Culture of Fear is becoming an Industry of Fear with bombardment of media headlines and political exploitation of events in the news.
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Categories: Anxiety, beheadings, credit card hacking, culture of fear, Ebola quarantines, Fear, Fear, fear-mongering, Gratitude, gun violence, ISIS terrorism, natural disasters, Politics, PTSD, same-sex marriages, Stress, Style Differences, the economy
A Spanking or Beating or Whipping or Whuppin?

Sep 30, 2014

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Family Violence including Domestic and Child Abuse can lead to ever-present anxiety, depression, compromised self-respect and respect for others. The ‘Flight, Fight or Freeze’ response continues to become activated by stress hormones adrenaline and cortisol into adulthood.
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Categories: Abuse, Abusive Relationships, Adrian Peterson, Baltimore Ravens, Carolina Panthers, child abuse, Couples, Domestic Violence, Family, Family Violence, Fight, Flight or Freeze, Flight, Flight or Freeze Response, Greg Hardy, Minnesota Vikings, NFL, Physical Abuse of Children, Ray McDonald, Ray Rice, San Francisco 49ers, stress hormones, Taking Personally, U.S. District Court Judge Mark Fuller