Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

How not to take rejection and disappointment so personally in your personal and professional relationships

Making Someone Bad and Wrong

Jul 31, 2020

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Why are there so many instances of making people ‘Bad and Wrong’ lately: finger-pointing, discrediting, blaming and shaming? Could it be caused by psychological projection – accusing others of one’s own unacceptable thoughts and behaviors?
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Categories: Accusing, Bad and Wrong, Blame/Blaming, discrediting, Donald Trump and Trump White House, Faulting, Finger-pointing, Lashing Out, loyalty and betrayal, Loyalty/Betrayal, Lying and Liars, Personal Attacks, Politics, Politics, Psychologial Projection, Psychological Projection. Disloyalty, Rejection, shame/shaming, shaming, Taking Personally, Wrong and Bad
Screaming in the Car Wash

Jun 30, 2020

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Sometimes when things seem overwhelming –– it feels really good to scream out loud. My idea of self-care is to scream in a drive-through car wash.
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Categories: alternate nostril breathing, Anxiety, anxiety, car wash, Coronavirus, coronavirus, COVID-19, depression, Family, Fear, Isolation, overwhelm, pandemic, scream, self-care, Self-care, Social Distance, Stress, yoga
Outbursts of Outrage – Where Is This Hateful Anger Coming From?

May 31, 2020

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Elayne Savage, PhD

A look at the kind of anger, rage and hatred that led to the killing of George Floyd and how peaceful protests erupted into riots and the use of military force.
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Categories: anger, Anger, bigotry, brutality, Bullying, burning, Current Affairs, discrimination, Donald Trump and Trump White House, Fear, Fear, George Floyd, hatred, inequality, injustice, outrage, police killing, protests, rage, Rage, riots, systemic racism
Honoring Grief and Making Losses Real

Apr 30, 2020

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The losses and fears of pandemic have been bringing up all kinds of losses from long ago –– of security, of health, of identity, of job, of respect, of recognition, of loved ones or pets. And each old trauma contributes…
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Categories: Anxiety, coronavirus, covid-19, DC-3, Disappointment, Disappointments, Fear, grief, Grief, grieving, Loss, loss, trauma, Trauma
Coping with Uncertainty, Isolation and Empty Space

Mar 31, 2020

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Elayne Savage, PhD

We can cope with the new normal from COVID-19 – sheltering in place, isolation, and fear – by filling the void and developing structure, routines, community and making new connections. But first it’s important to grieve the loss of how…
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Categories: Anxiety, Appreciation, Charles Eisenstein, communal grieving, Communal grieving, community, Community, Coronavirus, covid-19, COVID-19, Current Affairs, Destiny Arts Center, empty space, Fear, grief, Grief, horror vacui, Isolation, JGPG –Joe Goode Performance Group, lockdown isolation, Loss, loss Coronavirus, new normal, Odilia Galván Rodríguez, Relationships, Sarah Crowell, self-isolation, shelter-in-place, Sister Dang Nghiem, Social Distance, Social Distance
Loyalty and Betrayal and the Generational Family ‘Ledger’

Feb 29, 2020

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Elayne Savage, PhD

When some of us seem super-sensitive to loyalty and betrayal situations, it may be because the is an “invisible loyalties’ ledger of justice and injustice, fairness and unfairness, trustworthiness and untrustworthiness and loyalty and betrayal passed down through the generations in…
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Categories: Anonymous, Avalon movie, Baltimore, Barry Levinson, Betrayal, betrayal, Contextual Family Therapy, Current Affairs, Disappointments, disloyal White House administration, Fairness and Injustice, Family, Invisible Loyalties, Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy, loyalty, Loyalty/Betrayal, Politics, Relationships, Whistle Blower, White House Personnel Chief