Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

How not to take rejection and disappointment so personally in your personal and professional relationships

You’re a Grand Old Flag – What Happened?

Jan 31, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Hearing The Singing Senators on YouTube belt out ‘You’re a Grand Old Flag’ and ‘This is My Country’ makes me want to sing and march along. And at the same time makes me sad for for what seems like the…
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Categories: 1/6, Blake Zeff, Blame/Blaming, Current Affairs, Disrespect, Fairness and Injustice, January 6, Joyce Vance, Lashing Out, Loan Wolves, Lying and Liars, Politics, Respect, Safety and Security, shame/shaming, Taking Personally, The Singing Senators, This is My Country, Voter Suppression, Voter Suppression, You’re a Grand Old Flag
Liar, Liar Pants on Fire

Dec 31, 2022

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Elayne Savage, PhD

I really hate being lied to. And lately there seems to be outright permission granted to lie in outrageous ways. Congressman-elect George Santos is a recent example of disrespecting his constituents –– and the rest of us as well..
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Categories: Current Affairs, Disrespect, Donald Trump, Gaslighting, Gaslighting, Isomorphism/parallel Process/social contagion, liars, lying, Lying and Liars, mystification, mystification, parallel process, permission to lie, Politics, Psychologial Projection, psychological projection, R.D. Laing
Broadsided by Antisemitism

Nov 30, 2022

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Donald Trump’s Mar-a-Lago dinner with White Supremacist antisemites Nick Fuentes and Kanye West brought back a PTSD visceral reaction remembering neighbors spitting at me, calling me a “Dirty Jew.” I was 7 years old. This resurgence of antisemitism is alarming…
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Categories: Anger, antisemitism, Bullying, Current Affairs, Donald Trump, Fear, Holocaust Denier, Joe Levin, Kanye West, Klu Klux Klan, Mar-a-Lago Dinner, Mass Shootings, Morris Dees, Nick Fuentes, Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, PTSD, racist, Rage, University of Alabama, volatile, aggressive, threatening,scary behavior, White Supremacist, Ye
John Fetterman and Me and Auditory Processing Challenges

Oct 31, 2022

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Recent criticisms of John Fetterman’s stroke-caused speech challenges bring up my own life-long insecurities from Auditory Processing Disorder. When I stumble on words are friends or clients or audiences judging me? Luckily Fetterman’s neural circuits will continue to rebuild.
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Categories: ADHD, ADHD, Auditory Processing Disorder, Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), Bullying, concussion, Current Affairs, Disrespect, Dr. Oz, Jill Bolte Taylor, John Fetterman, Listened to, Heard, and Understood, Political Campaigning, Politics, Rejection, Rejection, Self-rejection, self-rejection, the brain
Managing Misunderstandings – Honing Conflict Resolution Skills

Sep 30, 2022

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Elayne Savage, PhD

In my most recent interview with Prevention Magazine I share my ideas on the importance of making space for respectful and clear communication, how to not make assumptions and to not take things personally – in both personal and workplace…
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Categories: Acceptance/Self-Acceptance, active listening, Anger, Communication, conflict, Conflict resolution, conflict resolution, Couples, managing conflicts Prevention Magazine, misunderstandings, Rejection, relationship conflict, Relationships, respect, Respect, Shannen Zitz, Style Differences, Taking Personally, taking personally, Teamwork, Workplace, workplace conflict
Intention Deficit Disorder – New Kid on the Block

Aug 31, 2022

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Reframing my various ADHD distractions as Intention Deficit Disorder makes a huge difference in my self-confidence those times I have fabulous intentions but have trouble accomplishing with my goals.
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Categories: ADHD, ADHD, Anxiety, Attention Deficit Disorder, Avoidance, Disappointments, Fear, Fear of Failure, Goals, Intention Deficit Disorder, Perfectionism, Procrastination, Procrastination, Rejection, Rejection, Russell Blakely, Self-rejection, self-rejection, Taking Personally