Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

How not to take rejection and disappointment so personally in your personal and professional relationships

Why ‘Weird’ is Such a Loaded Word

Aug 31, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The word ‘weird’ brings back so many negative growing up memories of feeling ‘less-than’ and ‘different’ and unaccepted by peers. I used to compare myself and feel so self-conscious. Until I discovered some self-acceptance.and self-respect.
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Categories: Blind spots, compliments, Current Affairs, defective, different, Disappointments, Donald Trump, Harassment, Lashing Out, less-than, negative messages, Rejection, Rejection, self incrimination, self-acceptance, self-rejection, self-respect, Self-sabotage, Shame, Social Rejection, taunts, Weird
‘Pebbling’ is Small Acts of Caring – What better Way to Show Respect?

Jul 31, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Pebbling’ describes small acts of caring which can enhance relationships – friendships, romantic, and even workplace. Great for making amends, too, when a misunderstanding throws things off track and someone takes something personally.
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Categories: Acts of Caring, Amends, amends, Apology, Community, hurt feelings, Kindness, miscommunication, misunderstandings, pebbling, relationships, Relationships, Respect, small acts of caring, Style Differences, taking personally, Taking Personally, Workplace
FactChecking the Biden-Trump Debate – My Impressions of Theater of the Absurd

Jul 20, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

I found myself having some powerful personal reactions to the Trump-Biden Debate – mostly to the low energy of Joe Biden and to the unexpectedly outrageous lying and gaslighting by Donald Trump
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Categories: Adderall, ADHD, ADHD, Ambivalence, Ambivalence, Current Affairs, Donald Trump, Gaslighting, Gaslighting, Joe Biden, king above the law, Lying and Liars, Politics, Psychologial Projection, SCOTUS, Self-sabotaging, Sonia Sotomayer, stimulant energy drinks, Supreme Court of the United States, Trump/Biden debate, You’re imagining it
A Smile and A Nod and A Hello

Jun 6, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

There appears to be is an ‘Epidemic of Loneiiness’ Making eye contact, a brief exchange of nods and smiles with a stranger,to acknowledge their humanity can brighten someone’s day and they may not feel so alone in the world.
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Categories: Anger, Connection, Connection, Friendliness, Hopelessness, Humaniity, Isolation, Loneliness, respect
The Dark and Deadly Side of ‘Giving Permission’

Apr 30, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Seems to be lots of permission given lately by Donald Trump and other politicians be Angry, to be angry, to hate, and to create violence and turmoil. many folks become alienated and angry because they did not feel heard or…
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Categories: acting out behavior, aggression, anger, Anger, Blind spots, Cult of Trump, dog whistles, Donald Trump, Donald Trump, Fairness and Injustice, giving permission, Guns, Listened to, Heard, and Understood, Lying and Liars, Permission, Politics, Rage, resentment, Unpredictability, volitility, inconsistancy, chaos, Victimhood, victim stance, volatile, aggressive, threatening,scary behavior
Let’s Talk About Resilience

Mar 31, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Why do some children seem to have this buoyancy, this natural knack for coping with the trauma in their lives more successfully than other children? Why are some children who experience early rejection able to grow into adulthood without developing patterns…
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Categories: “the transcenders” Lillian Rubin, Acceptance/Self-Acceptance, early rejection experiences, Harper Lee, Rejection, Resilience, resilience, Ronald Rohner, Safety and Security, Scout, Self-esteem, self-regard, sense of empowement, survivors, Taking Personally, To Kill a Mockingbird, Trauma