Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

How not to take rejection and disappointment so personally in your personal and professional relationships

A Life-Changing Phone Call to Harper Lee

Feb 25, 2016

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Elayne Savage, PhD

On a dare I once phoned Harper Lee in Monroeville, Alabama. This call changed my life – bringing new-found courage and self-acceptance. I learned about perseverance and resilience, too.
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Categories: Acceptance/Self-Acceptance, Board of Publications, bravery, courage, Don’t Take It Personally! Lillian Rubin, Film, Grief, Harper Lee, Mahout, Monroeville, Rammer Jammer, Resilience, Ronald Rohner spunk, Scout, self-acceptance, Self-esteem, To Kill a Mockingbird, University of Alabama
Play Nice or I’m Gonna Take My Marbles and Go Home

Jan 30, 2016

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Donald Trump is a master of deflecting questions – avoiding discussing his policies and plans. Instead he uses humor, provocative comments and finger-pointing.
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Categories: ambiguity, chickie run, communication, Communication, Current Affairs, deflection, Donald Trump, Donald Trump, Fox News, Media/Television, Megyn Kelly, Politics, provocative, Rebel Without a Cause, Rejection, Rejection, Republican Debate, take personally, we will build the wall
The Holiday Recovery Editon

Dec 31, 2015

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Elayne Savage, PhD

In this Holiday Recovery Edition, Dr. Elayne Savage offers creative tips for surviving the after-the-holidays-letdown from disappointment of gift-giving and family get-togethers.
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Categories: Chanukah, Christmas, cortisol, disappointment. adrenaline, Disappointments, expectations, Family, family dinners, Gift -giving, Grief, Holiday gift-giving, Kwanzaa, Lying and Liars, New Year 2016, Rejection, Relationships, Stress, Stress, Taking Personally
Thanksgiving Tips – Handling Your Asinine Uncle (and Other Turkeys)

Nov 21, 2015

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Thanksgiving get-togethers can be combative when relatives argue polarized points of view based on how politicians and presidential candidates are responding to terrorist attacks.
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Categories: adrenaline, anxiety, Anxiety, Appreciation, Bullying, Communication, cortisol, Current Affairs, depression, Family, Fear, Fear, Gratitude, Media/Television, norepinephrine, polarization, political rants, politicians, Politics, presidential candidates, Psychologial Projection, Rejection, Relationships, relatives, Stress, Taking Personally, terror, terrorist attacks, Thanksgiving get-togethers, Yoda
Don’t Be Telling Me What I Need to Do!

Oct 31, 2015

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Being told I “need to” or “have to” or “should” do something infringes on my personal space and incites adolescent rebellion. And yet, we hear and read these words every day.
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Categories: adolescent rebellion, Friendships, have to, Media/Television, must, need to, Personal Boundaries, personal boundaries, personal space, Politics, Rejection, Rejection, self-rejection, Self-rejection, should, Taking Personally, workplace, Workplace
Donald Trump Leads the Way in Disrespecting Personal Boundaries

Sep 16, 2015

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Elayne Savage, PhD

This 2016 Presidential Primary campaign has become a free-for-all for showing disrespect by crossing personal boundaries. And Donald Trump is leading the pack in displaying out-of-bounds behavior.
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Categories: 2016 Presidential Primaries, Blind spots, Blind Spots, boundary confusion, Bullying, Carly Fiorina, Current Affairs, Donald Trump, Donald Trump, Personal Boundaries, personal boundaries, Psychologial Projection, psychological projection, Rejection, respect, Taking Personally