Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

How not to take rejection and disappointment so personally in your personal and professional relationships

The Heartbreak of Another Mass School Shooting

Feb 28, 2018

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The killing of our children in schools is heartbreaking. Our emotional response to these traumatic events seems to stockpile, building the intensity of the awfulness each time a new massacre occurs.
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Categories: bullying, Bullying, Cleveland Elementary School Massacre, Columbine massacre, Communal grieving, communal grieving, Current Affairs, Fear, Fight, Fight, Flight or Freeze, Flight or Freeze Response, Grief, Loss, Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School massacre, Rejection, Sandy Hook Massacre, semi-automatic guns, semi-automatic rifles, social rejection, Social Rejection, Virginia Tech massacre
A Wise Way to Handle Hurtful, Gnarly People

Jan 30, 2018

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Ram Dass has a brilliant idea for dealing with the limitations of others – envision them as trees growing to survive the elements. Do the gnarly people in your life have to protect themselves as well?
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Categories: Acceptance, Acceptance/Self-Acceptance, Appreciation, Personal Boundaries, personal boundaries, Psychologial Projection, psychological projection, Ram Dass, Relationships, self-acceptance, Taking Personally, taking personally
Are Poor Personal Boundaries the Culprit for Sexual Misconduct?

Dec 31, 2017

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Poor personal boundaries and disrespect for private space is the culprit of sexual misconduct. and harassment.
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Categories: #MeToo, boundary confusion, comfort zone, Current Affairs, Harassment, Maya Angelou, personal boundaries, Personal Boundaries, personal boundary training, Rejection, Respect, Self-esteem, Sen. Al Franken, sexual assault, sexual harassment, sexual harassment, sexual misconduct
Are Your Holiday Gatherings Theatre of the Absurd?

Nov 21, 2017

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Thanksgiving and Holiday get-togethers can be stressful and combative when relatives argue. Tips for navigating family gatherings.
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Categories: Appreciation, appreciation, Beckett, Family, family gatherings, Gratitude, gratitude, Holiday get-togethers, Personal Boundaries, Pirandello, projection, Psychologial Projection, Rejection, Rejection, taking personally, Taking Personally, Thanksgiving family dinner, Theatre of the Absurd
Imbalance of Power and Authority Exists Everywhere

Oct 31, 2017

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Growing numbers of women and men are describing sexual misconduct and predatory behaviors: suggestive comments, bullying, sexual harassment, assault and abuse. This imbalance and misuse of power and authority is bigger than the casting couch – it permeates all industries…
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Categories: #MeToo, Abuse, abuse of power, Anita Hill, bullying, Bullying, Clarence Thomas, Current Affairs, date rape, Donald Trump, Fear, Harassment, Harvey Weinstein, Humiliation, imbalance of power and authority, James Toback, Kevin Spacey, personal boundaries, Personal Boundaries, Politics, Power and Control, Power and Control, PTSD, Roy Moore, self-rejection, sexual abusers, sexual assault, sexual harassment, sexual harassment, sexual misconduct, sexual predators, Shame
Will Name-calling and Lashing Out Start a War?

Sep 29, 2017

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Donald J. Trump and Kim Jong Un are behaving like two toddlers in a sandbox flinging sand in each other’s faces. Insults contributed to the start of WW I. Will it happen again?
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Categories: Andrew Bacevich, Bill Moyers, Current Affairs, Donald J. Trump, Donald Trump, Donald Trump and Trump White House, Kaiser Wilhelm II of Germany, Kim Jong Un, lashing out, name-calling, North Korean Foreign Minister Ri Yong Ho, Politics, Rejection, Rejection, Ridicule, taking personally, Taking Personally, taunts