Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

How not to take rejection and disappointment so personally in your personal and professional relationships

Are You ‘Filling in the Blanks?’ Assuming the Worst? Feeling Rejected?

Jul 30, 2018

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Elayne Savage, PhD

We are so quick to ‘fill in the blanks’ and assume meaning of someone’s words or actions. This leads to feeling judged and rejected , taking things personally and to serious misunderstandings in personal and workplace communications. Quick and easy…
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Categories: assumptions, Blame/Blaming, checking things out, communication, Communication, Fight, Flight or Freeze, fill in the blanks, hurt feelings, miscommunication, misunderstandings, Rejection, Rejection, Self-rejection, Taking Personally, taking personally
When a Parent Goes Missing – Bouncing From Security to Despair – Even Exploitation

Jun 23, 2018

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Forced separation from parents is only part of the story. What about the thousands of unaccounted for children? Will they be reunited with their parents? Or will unethical people attempt to make money from exploitation and human trafficking, including adoption,…
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Categories: Abandonment, Abuse, Anxiety, child trafficking, Current Affairs, Department of Health and Human Services, detention, DHS, Donald Trump, exploitation, Family, forced domestic servitude, forced labor, forced separation from parents, human trafficking, Human Trafficking report, immigrants, migrants and family separations, prostitution, RAICES, sex trafficking, Stress, Tender Care facility
Young Prince Harry and Me – 12 years old and losing our mothers in a crash

May 31, 2018

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Since the day Princess Diana was killed in a car crash I’ve felt a kindred-spirited-ness with Prince Harry. I, too, was 12 years old when my mother was killed decades earlier in a plane crash. And like Prince Harry, I…
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Categories: abandonment, Abandonment, car crash, Couples, Current Affairs, DC-3, DC-3, death, fear of abandonment, Loss, loss, Meghan Markle, plane crash, Prince Harry, Princess Diana, Stand By Me
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May 31, 2018

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Elayne Savage, PhD

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The Scariness of Unpredictability

Apr 29, 2018

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The unpredictability, uncertainty, distrust and volatility coming out of Washington is re-creating childhood memories and visceral reactions of growing up in scary and unsafe family situations.
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Categories: Abuse, alcoholic or abusive or neglectful families, Anxiety, anxiety, Bullying, bullying, Chaos, consistency, Current Affairs, distortions, Distrust, Donald Trump, Donald Trump and Trump White House, Family, Fear, Gaslighting, inconsistency, insecurity, instability, integrity, lashing out, Lashing Out, lying, Personal Boundaries, Politics, Rejection, Rejection, reliability, Safety, Security, stability, trauma, Trump White House, Trust, Unpredictability, volitility, inconsistancy, chaos, unreliability, volatility
The Art of Dealing Out Distractions, Deflections, Evasions, Blaming and Shaming

Mar 31, 2018

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Trying to understand the flurry of Distraction and Blaming? Look to childhood roles in the family – especially the Distracter and Blamer.
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Categories: Blame/Blaming, blaming, Current Affairs, Deflections, distract/deflect, Distractions, Donald Trump, Donald Trump and Trump White House, Evasions, Politics, projection, Psychologial Projection, Shame, shame/shaming, shaming, Unpredictability, volitility, inconsistancy, chaos, Virginia Satir’s Communication Stances