Disappointments – Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

Why ‘Weird’ is Such a Loaded Word

Aug 31, 2024

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The word ‘weird’ brings back so many negative growing up memories of feeling ‘less-than’ and ‘different’ and unaccepted by peers. I used to compare myself and feel so self-conscious. Until I discovered some self-acceptance.and self-respect.

Wearing Victimhood As a Badge of Honor

Mar 31, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Donald Trump is talented at using his own painful feelings of victimhood to bond with the public. When we feel inadequate we might puff ourselves up to bully size. He learned how to be an expert bulliy from being bullied by his father .

Intention Deficit Disorder – New Kid on the Block

Aug 31, 2022

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Reframing my various ADHD distractions as Intention Deficit Disorder makes a huge difference in my self-confidence those times I have fabulous intentions but have trouble accomplishing with my goals.

Waiting and Waiting to Hear: “Thank You for Your Good Work!”

Jan 31, 2022

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Early rejection experiences of feeling unappreciated, invisible or unrecognized can flare up in the workplace. Recognizing these early messages can help you navigate through the pain of yet another perceived rejection.

A Rejection Refresher Course for the New Year

Dec 31, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Here’s a End of the Year Refresher Course on Rejection compiled by Prevention Magazine and the Atlanta Journal Constitution. So glad to have been able to contribute to these terrific pieces!

Disloyalty, Betrayal and Secrets, Too

Jun 30, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The news is full of stories of Loyalty, Disloyalty, Betrayal and Secrets. Look under these accusations to find High Suspicion, Fear, Psychological Projection, and Taking things personally.

And on to Another Year . . .

Jan 1, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

A year ago who would have dreamed we’d be depending on Zoom to celebrate memorials, rites-of-passage and holidays. Or that family divisiveness, would increase multi-fold as the world becomes more polarized. Wishing you Light, Hope, and Peace . . .

Honoring Grief and Making Losses Real

Apr 30, 2020

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The losses and fears of pandemic have been bringing up all kinds of losses from long ago –– of security, of health, of identity, of job, of respect, of recognition, of loved ones or pets. And each old trauma contributes to the anxiety of the present.

Loyalty and Betrayal and the Generational Family ‘Ledger’

Feb 29, 2020

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Elayne Savage, PhD

When some of us seem super-sensitive to loyalty and betrayal situations, it may be because the is an “invisible loyalties’ ledger of justice and injustice, fairness and unfairness, trustworthiness and untrustworthiness and loyalty and betrayal passed down through the generations in our family .

Did Mueller Hearings Symbolize the Tattered Fabric of Our Country?

Jul 31, 2019

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Ridicule of Robert Mueller by the public, the media and Congress may be coming from Magical Thinking, unrealistic expectations and disappointment that he didn’t offer additional information during the hearings. Sometimes folks take their disappointments personally.

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