Couples – Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

Seeking Respect in a Dissing Kind of World

Nov 30, 2023

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Respect is the backbone of relationships — personal, workplace, and as we see now, political. Lately I’m noticing that respect has become frayed and tattered and torn and sometimes practically non-existent. Misunderstandings and hurt feelings and anger and resentment seem to be filling the space and there is barely room for connection.

Managing Misunderstandings – Honing Conflict Resolution Skills

Sep 30, 2022

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Elayne Savage, PhD

In my most recent interview with Prevention Magazine I share my ideas on the importance of making space for respectful and clear communication, how to not make assumptions and to not take things personally – in both personal and workplace relationships.

Congressional Communication Breakdowns Replicate Troubled Couples

Sep 30, 2021

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The squabbling and dramatic goings-on in Congress lead to miscommunications lead to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, taking things personally, anger and resentment.

Young Prince Harry and Me – 12 years old and losing our mothers in a crash

May 31, 2018

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Since the day Princess Diana was killed in a car crash I’ve felt a kindred-spirited-ness with Prince Harry. I, too, was 12 years old when my mother was killed decades earlier in a plane crash. And like Prince Harry, I wasn’t able to talk about it for many years.

The Gruesome Twosome

Sep 29, 2016

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The gruesome twosome debate – Interruptions, facial expressions, disrespect and the moderator losing control was like a couples therapy session swirling out of control.

Blind Spots – Those Unacceptable Parts of Ourselves

Jan 31, 2015

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Elayne Savage, PhD

We all have a blind spot or two, submerged parts of ourselves that we don’t see but others do. Discover how not to let this be a problem in your personal and workplace relationships.

A Spanking or Beating or Whipping or Whuppin?

Sep 30, 2014

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Family Violence including Domestic and Child Abuse can lead to ever-present anxiety, depression, compromised self-respect and respect for others. The ‘Flight, Fight or Freeze’ response continues to become activated by stress hormones adrenaline and cortisol into adulthood.

7 Tips for Designing Your Valentine’s Day

Feb 10, 2014

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Here comes Valentine’s Day – when too often the value of the relationship is tied up in a gift. Being clear and direct about what you yearn for avoids misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Tips for designing your Valentine’s Day whether you’re in a relationship or unattached.

Honoring Your Differences Instead of Feeling Threatened By Them

Mar 1, 2013

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Elayne Savage, PhD

There’s a tendency to make someone ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ just because they have a different point of view or way of doing things. Why not honor your differences – instead of feeling threatened by them?

Valentine’s Day – Love ‘Em or Leave ‘Em

Feb 9, 2012

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Elayne Savage, PhD

What is it about Valentine’s Day that leads to relationship breakups? Could it be ‘the last straw’ in a series of disappointments dating back to Thanksgiving?

Category: Couples