taking personally – Page 2 – Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

When Apologies are Non-apologies

Sep 30, 2023

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Apologies are difficult so many of us make a non-apology – full of justifications, excuses and rationalizations for very unclassy, hurtful, denigrating, and often intentionally mean-for-meanness-sake behavior.

The Case of the Missing Apology

Aug 31, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Lately lots of political name-calling and finger-pointing and blaming and shaming. Folks taking things personally and retaliating by lashing out. But have you noticed apologies seem to be missing – along with stepping up and taking responsibility for often outrageous behavior.

The Big-time Influence of Personal Boundaries

Jul 31, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Personal boundary confusion is a challenge for many of us, especially if we grew up in a family where there was a lack of clear boundaries often leading to disrespect and shame. Boundary confusion can be especially problematic in the workplace.

Wearing Victimhood As a Badge of Honor

Mar 31, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Donald Trump is talented at using his own painful feelings of victimhood to bond with the public. When we feel inadequate we might puff ourselves up to bully size. He learned how to be an expert bulliy from being bullied by his father .

In the Spirit of Teamwork

Feb 28, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Hakeem Jefferies and Keven McCarthy are teaming up to create a bipartisan task force to ensure due process on House committee removal. Moving forward from the past two years of punishing legislators by removing them from committee assignments. Teamwork usually includes respect — sure hope so.

You’re a Grand Old Flag – What Happened?

Jan 31, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Hearing The Singing Senators on YouTube belt out ‘You’re a Grand Old Flag’ and ‘This is My Country’ makes me want to sing and march along. And at the same time makes me sad for for what seems like the demise of the country that I used to feel so proud was my country. Hoping…

Managing Misunderstandings – Honing Conflict Resolution Skills

Sep 30, 2022

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Elayne Savage, PhD

In my most recent interview with Prevention Magazine I share my ideas on the importance of making space for respectful and clear communication, how to not make assumptions and to not take things personally – in both personal and workplace relationships.

Intention Deficit Disorder – New Kid on the Block

Aug 31, 2022

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Reframing my various ADHD distractions as Intention Deficit Disorder makes a huge difference in my self-confidence those times I have fabulous intentions but have trouble accomplishing with my goals.

Trumpism/Cultism/Populism Revisited

Jul 31, 2022

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Trumpism is linked to Cult-like behavior. Here are striking similarities of traits of known cult leaders to Donald J. Trump and Trumpism.

Bullying and Disrespect: the Supreme Court Hearings and on the Oscars Stage

Apr 1, 2022

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Public bullying behavior has been rampant lately –– Ketanji Brown Jackson’s confirmation hearings and on the Oscars stage from both Chris Rock and Will Smith. Personally, I have an overwhelming visceral response from my own early bullying experiences which made an indelible imprint on my life.

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