taking personally – Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

Bullying: Disrespect du Jour

Aug 31, 2025

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The amount of vindictiveness and bullying coming daily from the Trump White House, and too-often from Congress is cringe-worthy. Let’s try for some respect for a change…

Figuring Out Tariffs Is Crazy-Making

Aug 7, 2025

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Elayne Savage, PhD

There seems to be huge confusion and disagreement about exactly which country pays tariffs – Donald Trump insists the exporting country will be paying these taxes and repspected economists argue the importing country always pays the fees, which means the customer will likely be paying more for the product.

An Onslaught of Disrespect

Jun 30, 2025

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Sometimes instead of mirroring respectful behaviors we find ourselves copying negative, belittling, abusive behaviors . This appears to be going on as many of us are mirroring disrespectful, ugly words and behaviors that we observe from members of Congress or journalists and commentators or from our President.

The Presidential Meeting That Made My Skin Crawl

Feb 28, 2025

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The bullying that took place in the Oval Office between President Trump Vice President Vance and President Zelenskyy was an embarrassment and not worthy of the respect deserved by the office of the President of the United States.

Why Do Political Campaigns Guilt-trip Us to Donate?

Nov 30, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Have you been feeling blind-sided into donating to certain political campaigns during this election cycle – blamed or shamed or guilt-tripped?

Election Campaign 2024: Rejections, Accusations and Psychological Projections

Sep 30, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Psychological projection is the tendency to unconsciously see certain traits in another person –– traits you cannot acknowledge them in yourself. These might include anger, sadness, fears, insecurities, vulnerabilities, and dependency. It might include your tendency to be stubborn or flirtatious or bad or too loud or pushy or competitive or controlling. have a tendency…

‘Pebbling’ is Small Acts of Caring – What better Way to Show Respect?

Jul 31, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Pebbling’ describes small acts of caring which can enhance relationships – friendships, romantic, and even workplace. Great for making amends, too, when a misunderstanding throws things off track and someone takes something personally.

Let’s Talk About Resilience

Mar 31, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Why do some children seem to have this buoyancy, this natural knack for coping with the trauma in their lives more successfully than other children? Why are some children who experience early rejection able to grow into adulthood without developing patterns of negative beliefs about themselves and the safety and trust of their world and the people…

When Rejection Leads to Self-rejection and Feels Like Shame

Feb 29, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The sting of rejection often morphs into self-rejection and shame. One way of dealing is reminding yourself “This is only embarrassment not shame”can make a difference in how we deal with the pain of taking something personally.

Seeking Respect in a Dissing Kind of World

Nov 30, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Respect is the backbone of relationships — personal, workplace, and as we see now, political. Lately I’m noticing that respect has become frayed and tattered and torn and sometimes practically non-existent. Misunderstandings and hurt feelings and anger and resentment seem to be filling the space and there is barely room for connection.

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