shame/shaming – Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

When Rejection Leads to Self-rejection and Feels Like Shame

Feb 29, 2024

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The sting of rejection often morphs into self-rejection and shame. One way of dealing is reminding yourself “This is only embarrassment not shame”can make a difference in how we deal with the pain of taking something personally.

The Big-time Influence of Personal Boundaries

Jul 31, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Personal boundary confusion is a challenge for many of us, especially if we grew up in a family where there was a lack of clear boundaries often leading to disrespect and shame. Boundary confusion can be especially problematic in the workplace.

You’re a Grand Old Flag – What Happened?

Jan 31, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Hearing The Singing Senators on YouTube belt out ‘You’re a Grand Old Flag’ and ‘This is My Country’ makes me want to sing and march along. And at the same time makes me sad for for what seems like the demise of the country that I used to feel so proud was my country. Hoping…

Making Someone Bad and Wrong

Jul 31, 2020

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Why are there so many instances of making people ‘Bad and Wrong’ lately: finger-pointing, discrediting, blaming and shaming? Could it be caused by psychological projection – accusing others of one’s own unacceptable thoughts and behaviors?

After Banning Abortion: What Happens to Children and Families?

May 30, 2019

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Elayne Savage, PhD

A flurry of bills to ban abortion but no one talks about what will happen to these ‘saved’ unwanted infants. What if some parents are unable or unwilling to provide a safe, secure, loving, protected environment. As a long-time Child Protective Services social worker, I have stories to tell about how unplanned for, unwanted children…

The Art of Dealing Out Distractions, Deflections, Evasions, Blaming and Shaming

Mar 31, 2018

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Trying to understand the flurry of Distraction and Blaming? Look to childhood roles in the family – especially the Distracter and Blamer.

Saving Face or Losing Face?

Oct 15, 2013

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Elayne Savage, PhD

What Congress in Washington needs is a large dose of ‘Saving Face.’ Maybe they can use some tips from the Chinese who for generations have been experts on ‘Managing Face.’

Category: shame/shaming

When Rejection Leads to Self-rejection and Feels Like Shame

The Big-time Influence of Personal Boundaries

You’re a Grand Old Flag – What Happened?

Making Someone Bad and Wrong

After Banning Abortion: What Happens to Children and Families?

The Art of Dealing Out Distractions, Deflections, Evasions, Blaming and Shaming

Saving Face or Losing Face?