Rejection – Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

Why I Feel Connected to the Menendez Brothers

Apr 30, 2025

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ct oI actually have felt a kind of a connection to Lyle and Erik Menendez ever since I was a panelist on the ‘Abuse or Greed’ Maury Povich show decades ago. I was able to discuss how it wasn’t just their anger about the years of sexual abuse by their father, but also the early…

The Presidential Meeting That Made My Skin Crawl

Feb 28, 2025

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The bullying that took place in the Oval Office between President Trump Vice President Vance and President Zelenskyy was an embarrassment and not worthy of the respect deserved by the office of the President of the United States.

Election Campaign 2024: Rejections, Accusations and Psychological Projections

Sep 30, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Psychological projection is the tendency to unconsciously see certain traits in another person –– traits you cannot acknowledge them in yourself. These might include anger, sadness, fears, insecurities, vulnerabilities, and dependency. It might include your tendency to be stubborn or flirtatious or bad or too loud or pushy or competitive or controlling. have a tendency…

Why ‘Weird’ is Such a Loaded Word

Aug 31, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The word ‘weird’ brings back so many negative growing up memories of feeling ‘less-than’ and ‘different’ and unaccepted by peers. I used to compare myself and feel so self-conscious. Until I discovered some self-acceptance.and self-respect.

Let’s Talk About Resilience

Mar 31, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Why do some children seem to have this buoyancy, this natural knack for coping with the trauma in their lives more successfully than other children? Why are some children who experience early rejection able to grow into adulthood without developing patterns of negative beliefs about themselves and the safety and trust of their world and the people…

When Rejection Leads to Self-rejection and Feels Like Shame

Feb 29, 2024

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Elayne Savage, PhD

The sting of rejection often morphs into self-rejection and shame. One way of dealing is reminding yourself “This is only embarrassment not shame”can make a difference in how we deal with the pain of taking something personally.

Seeking Respect in a Dissing Kind of World

Nov 30, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Respect is the backbone of relationships — personal, workplace, and as we see now, political. Lately I’m noticing that respect has become frayed and tattered and torn and sometimes practically non-existent. Misunderstandings and hurt feelings and anger and resentment seem to be filling the space and there is barely room for connection.

When Apologies are Non-apologies

Sep 30, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Apologies are difficult so many of us make a non-apology – full of justifications, excuses and rationalizations for very unclassy, hurtful, denigrating, and often intentionally mean-for-meanness-sake behavior.

The Case of the Missing Apology

Aug 31, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Lately lots of political name-calling and finger-pointing and blaming and shaming. Folks taking things personally and retaliating by lashing out. But have you noticed apologies seem to be missing – along with stepping up and taking responsibility for often outrageous behavior.

The Big-time Influence of Personal Boundaries

Jul 31, 2023

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Elayne Savage, PhD

Personal boundary confusion is a challenge for many of us, especially if we grew up in a family where there was a lack of clear boundaries often leading to disrespect and shame. Boundary confusion can be especially problematic in the workplace.

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