Category: Blind spots
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Election Campaign 2024: Rejections, Accusations and Psychological Projections
Psychological projection is the tendency to unconsciously see certain traits in another person –– traits you cannot acknowledge them in yourself. These might include anger, sadness, fears, insecurities, vulnerabilities, and dependency. It might include your tendency to be stubborn or flirtatious or bad or too loud or pushy or competitive or controlling. have a tendency…
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Why ‘Weird’ is Such a Loaded Word
The word ‘weird’ brings back so many negative growing up memories of feeling ‘less-than’ and ‘different’ and unaccepted by peers. I used to compare myself and feel so self-conscious. Until I discovered some self-acceptance.and self-respect.
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The Dark and Deadly Side of ‘Giving Permission’
Seems to be lots of permission given lately by Donald Trump and other politicians be Angry, to be angry, to hate, and to create violence and turmoil. many folks become alienated and angry because they did not feel heard or seen growing up in their families. And someone is finally hearing and listening to and understanding…
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Seeking Respect in a Dissing Kind of World
Respect is the backbone of relationships — personal, workplace, and as we see now, political. Lately I’m noticing that respect has become frayed and tattered and torn and sometimes practically non-existent. Misunderstandings and hurt feelings and anger and resentment seem to be filling the space and there is barely room for connection.
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The Case of the Missing Apology
Lately lots of political name-calling and finger-pointing and blaming and shaming. Folks taking things personally and retaliating by lashing out. But have you noticed apologies seem to be missing – along with stepping up and taking responsibility for often outrageous behavior.
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Predatory Behavior, Bullying, Screaming and Smashing – Oh My
Accusations of imbalance and misuse of Power and Authority by producer Scott Rudin who bullied and berated staff by out-of-control acts and Phillip Roth’s biographer Blake Bailey whose ex-students are reporting sexually predatory behavior back in 8th grade.
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Gaslighting –– the Ultimate Alternate Reality
Misrepresentations, untrue statements and flat out lies from both Conventions felt like gaslighting and manipulation. It was crazy-making because it reminded me of how my childhood perceptions were constantly discounted.
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Giving Permission – A Double-Edged Sword
The idea of “Giving Permission” has both light and dark ramifications. “Permission” from a mentor or consultant can lead to positive personal and professional changes. “Permission” to act out anger or hate or violent thoughts can have devastating results. Do messages from the White House give dangerous permission?
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From Self-reject to Self-respect
Personal attacks, ridiculing, taunting and blaming are flying through the air in this election cycle. For many it brings back memories of our early experiences and triggers own self-doubt and self-rejecting messages.
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Donald Trump Leads the Way in Disrespecting Personal Boundaries
This 2016 Presidential Primary campaign has become a free-for-all for showing disrespect by crossing personal boundaries. And Donald Trump is leading the pack in displaying out-of-bounds behavior.