Tips from the Queen of Rejection®

Category: Listened to, Heard, and Understood

  • The Dark and Deadly Side of ‘Giving Permission’

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    Elayne Savage, PhD

    Seems to be lots of permission given lately by Donald Trump and other politicians be Angry, to be angry, to hate, and to create violence and turmoil. many folks become alienated and angry because they did not feel heard or seen growing up in their families. And someone is finally hearing and listening to and understanding…

  • When Rejection Leads to Self-rejection and Feels Like Shame

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    Elayne Savage, PhD

    The sting of rejection often morphs into self-rejection and shame. One way of dealing is reminding yourself “This is only embarrassment not shame”can make a difference in how we deal with the pain of taking something personally.

  • CHOOSING KINDNESS

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    Elayne Savage, PhD

    As a way of finding some balance for myself in a chaotic and disturbing world I find my self seeking exalmples of kindness.. Seems there has been so much unkindness, and even mean-spiritedness and even hostility and even retaliation out there the experience of kindness is a welcome relief.

  • In the Spirit of Teamwork

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    Elayne Savage, PhD

    Hakeem Jefferies and Keven McCarthy are teaming up to create a bipartisan task force to ensure due process on House committee removal. Moving forward from the past two years of punishing legislators by removing them from committee assignments. Teamwork usually includes respect — sure hope so.

  • John Fetterman and Me and Auditory Processing  Challenges

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    Elayne Savage, PhD

    Recent criticisms of John Fetterman’s stroke-caused speech challenges bring up my own life-long insecurities from Auditory Processing Disorder. When I stumble on words are friends or clients or audiences judging me? Luckily Fetterman’s neural circuits will continue to rebuild.

  • Feeling Left Behind

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    Elayne Savage, PhD

    The arrival in the US of the recent Afghan interpreter evacuees has a profound effect on me both for keeping a promise and thinking about those left behind – also for my own personal experiences with feeling ‘left behind.’